It has been less than a month since I posted my 2018 Goals & update post…and since then my life has yet again changed (talk about being mentally exhausted). Something happened that was honestly so soul-crushing and has filled me with anger and hurt, BUT with the following things I am about to talk to you about, I have been able to start to overcome this, and get back on track!
Things happen in life so quickly and abruptly, that you will feel like you have drowned. I know initially I felt like everything I knew about life would end and I would never feel happiness again. Oh, how wrong was I! The beauty of life is that no matter how shit it can get, it will always become beautiful once more, if we learn to take a hardship, learn from it and turn it into a powerful change.
Know yourself, know your worth.
In the wise words from Drizzy himself, “Know yourself, know your worth!”. The first thing I did when this “incident” happened to me was blame myself. I asked, “what is so wrong with me?”. WHY oh WHY do we ask ourselves that? Why are we accustomed to assuming we are the issue? Firstly, and most importantly, in order to have a positive change, we need to appreciate ourselves, and now our own worth.
Surround yourself with beauty.
No, this isn’t me saying to bathe in a sea of makeup (although I would definitely be down for that!); surround yourself with all of the beauty in the world. For me, this was hands down my family and friends. I have a wonderful support system, and to lean on them for a short period of time, really gave me the motivation to build myself back up so quickly. Also, go outside! See the sun or the rain and soak it all in (figuratively and literally), have a wander around nature and realise that even in your darkest times, the world is still living; the world didn’t end.
Self-care, oh hey there!
Of all the things I have lost recently, the most significant was the loss of myself. I have spent so long trying to be so much for someone else, that I didn’t look after myself. At the end of the day, the only person who will ALWAYS be there for you, is your own SELF. You need to be working, and healthy, and loving yourself, in order to ever be able to give yourself to someone else. A few things I have since been doing to practice self-care include working out ( a LOT ), reading more, spending more quality time with myself, going on lunch dates with my mumma, and just enjoying all the things life has to offer.
I hope these three tips can help anyone who has experience a hard time in their life, so that we can all learn to love ourselves 100% and live the best life we possibly can. I would also like to take a second to thanks EVERY SINGLE PERSON who has contacted me recently to show their love & support. I appreciate you all, and you know who you are!